Happy New Year Smart Girls! It seems like it was just January, 2014. The year flew by and somehow 2015 is upon us. The major cliche that goes along with the new year is resolutions and new beginnings. While I love a clean slate and a fresh start I also appreciate everything I have done up till now, the good and the bad. Through my nineteen years I have learned to deal with many situations and I have grown to be very confident with myself. I try to always live my life the way I want to live and not have others’ opinions get in my way. So I challenge you Smart Girls to use everything you have done before 2015 and use those experiences and lessons to be more confident in yourself and the world that surrounds you! Here are what incredible thinkers and I believe are the top five kinds of confidence!
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Bernard M. Baruch
Creating confidence in yourself in easily one of the most important life qualities to have. I am the biggest believer in confidence in yourself. You need to create the image that you are truly a beautiful and accomplished women in whatever you do. You need to believe that you have something to bring to everyone and everything. You need to believe that your voice is worth hearing. If you can honestly believe in yourself, your life will take the best turn possible. You do not need to be perfect (nobody is!), but you do need to be proud of who you are.
“Confidence in others’ honesty is no light testimony of one’s own integrity.” – Michel de Montaigne
You need to believe in others the way that you want others to believe in you. Having confidence in others has nothing to do with being dependent on them, but rather knowing they are always capable. Life cannot be accomplished alone so you need to create quality relationships and have confidence in others. When believing in others it has a lot to do with trust. Just think, view and believe others the way you want to viewed and believed by people. Compliment, reach out to and follow up with people and they will appreciate your kind words which will in return boost their confidence.
“Realize that if a door closed, it’s because what was behind it wasn’t meant for you.” – Mandy Hale
Everything happens for a reason: You can plan life to your fifth future child’s middle name or to your dream job, but you have to accept that life is out of your hands. You have to believe and grow confidence in the unknown. Life is a crazy thing and is a complete roller coaster, but it has a greater purpose for you to grow as a person. You can try to manipulate life’s plan however you want, but just being confident in your decisions and the path ahead is a lot easier.
“Be the change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi
Change is inevitable in life and happens a lot more than we usually like it too. However, we have to be confident in change which will ultimately lead us to adapt. We can be scared of change because it is new and unknown, but it is also very healthy to mix things up and start anew. We need to recognize that with our already established self confidence we can handle the new experience and have confidence in others that they will help along the way.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
The confidence to know it’s going to be okay, the confidence to continue living when something horrific occurs, this can be the hardest confidence to gain. Building confidence after something terrible happens is very difficult but also very necessary. As the Beatles would say, “ Ob-la-di ob-la-da life goes on bra,”and life does go on, but not until you decide it does. You need to create the confidence to start living again. People can influence you to make this decision, but it is 100% up to you.