Coming from someone who has probably spent a few too many hours on Pinterest and Instagram, I’ve seen my fair share of style and beauty inspiration. From Jenna Lyon’s high fashion work wear, to the countless bloggers who somehow are able to pull off outfits that only the bravest souls would even think to put together, there is something for everybody. But, I’ve noticed that those daring fashion and beauty choices rarely translate into everyday life. Instead, we’re inundated with girls who have perfectly contoured and highlighted faces, donning their go to uniform of high waisted shorts, crop tops, and converse.
There’s nothing wrong with this, but it’s also not a look that’s for everyone. There is undoubtedly a certain amount of pressure put on women, and that women put on themselves, to look a certain way, compromising their own tastes in order to be accepted by others. Instead of allowing ourselves to wear the kinds of clothes that we lust over, we’re stuck playing things safe. We rationalize that only particular people can wear whatever they choose, leaving the rest of us to wear variations of the same outfit. We are left with a sea of sameness.
For a culture that is so focused on identity and individuality, we haven’t been very successful in attempting to rid judgment of people who don’t fit into our ideal standards of beauty. If people were brave enough to wear whatever they wanted, and were able to do so without the negative opinions of others, we would not have standards of beauty at all. We would just have beauty. We would have a society full of people who would be willing to express themselves for who they truly are, who wouldn’t feel the need to edit the way they present themselves in order to please others.
“We rationalize that only particular people can wear whatever they choose, leaving the rest of us to wear variations of the same outfit. We are left with a sea of sameness.”
There’s nothing wrong with following trends–so long as you actually like the trends that you’re following. It takes a whole lot of energy to try and be somebody that you’re not, so free yourself from that burden. Embrace your quirkiness for what it is, and run with it.
The next time you’re worried about someone judging you for wearing something that is outside of your comfort zone, remember that it’s okay to go against the grain. It’s okay to look different than your friends. And it’s okay to put your opinions before the opinions of others, especially when it comes to the way you look.
And the next time you catch yourself silently judging someone for wearing something that isn’t the norm, call yourself out on it. There’s already enough hate in this world, so focus your energy on spreading love and encouragement.
Most importantly, don’t stress! Figuring out your style takes time, and can definitely be frustrating, but try and enjoy the process. Trust me, it’s worth it.