Earlier this month, we celebrated Mother’s Day: a whole day of thanking our moms, aunts, grandmothers, and all other female family members for everything they do. But the Smart Women in our lives deserve so much more than one day of thanks. Practically every day, they choose to put their own busy lives aside to make ours a priority. So this post is about how to show that you notice the things they do, on the 364 days of the year other than that one special day in May.
Smart Women notice when something isn’t quite right. Moms are universally well-versed in knowing our standard emotions, facial expressions, commentaries, and so much more of our everyday lives. I’m sure we’ve all been in a bad mood at one point or another for whatever reason, and I’m also sure that the first person to notice was our mom. You could almost say that moms, aunts, grandmas, or any other female guardian in your life has a special skill for sensing when we’re upset. Too often we take out this frustration or disappointment on the Smart Women who are simple trying to calm us. So next time you’re ready to snap or make some sassy comment, count to 10. She doesn’t deserve it, after all she’s done and when she only wants to help. Instead, ask for her advice or opinion. You’d be surprised at how much such a small act means, because it shows you really trust her wisdom and look up to her as a guiding figure.
You don’t need some grandiose gesture to show how much you care. The next time one of the Smart Women you love is looking upset, ask why. Be the listening ear and shoulder to lean on that they have been to you for so many years. Treat her to coffee once a month. Leave a note for her in the car so she sees it on the way to work, telling her to have a great day. Buy a new bottle of her favorite nail polish, then schedule a mani-pedi date. The single best thing you can do, though, to celebrate the Smart Women in your life is to spend more time with them. Sure, being treated to a meal or receiving some type of gift is nice. But when it comes down to it, the best gift you can give is the gift of time. If you are still living at home, this is obviously a lot easier. Rather than sit in your room watching TV one night, sit on the couch and watch a rom-com with your mom. Drive groceries over to your grandma’s house so that she doesn’t have to go out. Meet up with your aunt to go for a walk. If you’re away at school or living in your own apartment somewhere, set aside a half hour every week to FaceTime or Skype with your Smart Women. Nothing is a better cure to missing your family and your role models than to see them and talk to them, when they can see you, too.
Most of the time, the Smart Women in your life won’t ask for some great show of appreciation. They don’t expect anything in return for what they do, because everything they do is simply what being a mom, or aunt, or grandmother, entails. However, they deserve to be thanked every day. They deserve to be thanked for putting up with teenage moodiness, first crushes and first loves, teasing, years of school and college applications and lack of sleep, clothing and hair and makeup trauma and so much more. The Smart Women in our lives have helped us through all of the daily struggles of growing up. They have not only helped us survive, but grow stronger from the trials we have faced to become the Smart Girls we are.