The world is comprised of 7.4 billion people. 7.4 billion people that live and breathe each day, that contribute to society, that laugh and chat with the people around them, or that keep to themselves in a life of relative solitude. Most of these people, including you, started out with someone. You had a parent there to keep you safe; some kind of guardian to keep you company and guide you in your life. As you grew up, you and these other 7.4 billion people, you started making decisions for yourself and you started amassing your people: making new friends at school and allies at work, finding people you wanted to share your life with. Slowly, but surely, you started to depend on these people. You looked to them for affirmation and asked them for help as you’ve needed it. We all need help sometimes. We all need people to lean on.
If you’re lucky, you have a solid group of people that supports you. You have family members that are kind and selfless. You have friends that will pick up the phone at 3 am and be there in minutes if you ask. Not everyone gets people like that, though, and they learn the lesson early. Sadly, some people learn the lesson far too early in life.
No matter how great or wide a support system is, everyone learns the lesson sometime: you learn that other people are great, but they aren’t always there.
You learn that other people sometimes let you down. They move away, they disagree with a decision you’ve made and keep their distance for a while, they’re busy when you have something important going on. Sometimes it feels like you’re all alone in the world. Sometimes you’re all you’ve got. The good news is that you can make it on your own. The good news is that you’re your own best ally.
You’ll be okay alone because you know yourself best. You know what you want. You know what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling, what you’re good at and what you need to learn a little better. When you’re by yourself, you can take some time to make sure you’re really listening to yourself. You can reevaluate what you really want and you can make decisions that are best for you. Even when it feels like you’re the only one in your corner, you can pump yourself up to get back out there and fight. You know what it takes to get your head in the game and cheer yourself on. It’s unfortunate that people let you down. It breaks your heart when someone you thought would be there for you backs out and it’s okay to need some time to trust them again. In the meantime, remember that you’re enough. Having a support system is wonderful, but you’ll be okay without them every once in a while. You can do this on your own, girl. Be your own ally.